Secondly, relationships are hard because they require balancing two basic and conflicting human drives: the need to be a separate, autonomous self (and the individual freedom this implies) with the need to be connected with other (and the compromise/negotiation this requires).
It often leads to compromise, it can lead to arguments, and it may lead to resentment when you don’t get things exactly as you’d like.You also have to act in a way that respects your partner and your relationship.All of the previous points – from thinking of the other person to dealing with baggage – require a sustained effort to grow both as individuals and as a partnership.The key is to address and deal with the downs, support each other when life throws a spanner into the works, and relish and maximize the ups.Real relationships are never all cute smiles, warm hugs, and sweet thoughts.And then there’s the flip side. We all get triggered when someone asks us to do something we don’t want to do. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today.When NASA launches a spacecraft, it uses about 90% of its fuel breaking free of the Earth’s atmosphere.